Everyone needs a long-lasting relationship with that special person they care about
A relationship can take a tragic turn for many reasons, but most of them are preventable
Ending a relationship without mutual agreement usually hurts one person more than the other
Ending a relationship can be a lifechanging experience. This is especially the case if a person has been with his or her partner for many years, were living together, married, or if there are children involved. In spite of this, people often make breakups harder than they need to be by engaging in negative behaviors. Here are some guidelines to help bring a relationship to a peaceful end.
It’s important to be absolutely sure about what separating couples want for their future, so there are clear boundaries that should be firmly set once the relationship ends. When kids are involved, this makes it easier to maintain a stable home and lets each partner know his or her parental rights and responsibilities. Otherwise, child custody lawyers and judges will be involved to reach a fair settlement during a bitter custody battle.
Some people dread a breakup so badly that they choose to simply ignore and avoid their partner until they get the full picture that the relationship must come to an end. Phone calls, text messages, and requests for visits or an explanation may all be ignored. Even if there are justifiable reasons for being upset, the problem with ghosting is that it doesn’t provide a clear ending or establish boundaries.
To officially declare an end to the relationship, each partner should mutually choose the time and place accordingly. If one partner is prone to violent outbursts, it may be smart to meet in a public place, such as at a park or a restaurant. Sure, it may be embarrassing, but if necessary, there may be someone to rely on for help if needed and the eyewitness of strangers. If a partner is not prone to such behavior, a more private setting may be appropriate.
If there was no marriage, no jointly owned assets, and no children in the relationship, then each person is free to move on independently. Otherwise, it will be necessary to interact with an ex, sometimes on a regular basis. Planning for these interactions should include setting clear boundaries and mentally preparing for civil discourse. An ex-partner may choose to be unreasonable, but by maintaining a clear head, the reasonable party can help to neutralize emotional outbursts.
WITH A COOL HEAD, ENDING A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE A SIMPLE PROCESS